The Power of Awareness: Witnessing Without Judging

We live in a world where we make judgments every day.  We decide when to cross a street and when not to, when to speak to a stranger and when to pass by…  This good/bad judgment can keep us safe.  But what would it be like if, outside of these essential discernments, we were able to accept what is as it is – not good, not bad, not beautiful, not ugly, not right, not wrong.   Most of all, what would life be like if we didn’t judge ourselves quite as much as we normally do.

Read more about Awareness without Judgment in The Power of Awareness – Witnessing Without Judging or in Sibyl Magazine’s March 2016 edition.

The Power of Acceptance: Opening to the Love of Others

If you want to see how we close ourselves down to the love of others, just watch a group of children interacting in a playground.  Some are the center of every game while others stay closer to small sub-sets of friends circling the leaders. And then there’s that one little boy or girl who hovers alone on the edge of the group, longing to participate but holding back.

Read More about opening to love from others in The Power of Acceptance – Opening to the Love of Others June 2015 in Sibyl Magazine.

Spirituality and Social Justice: How One Woman Transformed Her Piece of the World

This year Mary Quinalty sold her home in an upmarket neighborhood of Albuquerque, New Mexico, gave away her possessions and moved into Trinity House, a Catholic Worker “house of hospitality” for homeless people where she is the full-time, unpaid administrator. Mary Quinalty is eighty-one years old.

Read about Mary’s remarkable story and the spiritual awakening that motivates her social justice work at:  Beliefnet

3 Reasons to be Self-Compassionate and One Way to Do it.

Read my post on three science based reasons to be compassionate with ourselves published on the Llewellyn Worldwide website.

2 Ways to Move From Powerless to Empowered

Think about what happens when a young child doesn’t get what he wants.  Tantrum.  No holds barred anger.  That’s our untamed, natural and healthy response to powerlessness.  Our caregiver’s job is to teach us how to regulate and manage that well of anger in appropriate and effective ways.  But if life teaches us to be victims, that anger can go underground.  One of the way’s to begin the journey back to empowered personal effectiveness is to make friends with our hidden anger. Read more

The Power of Acceptance: Letting Go of “Should” (1 of 12)

The Power of Acceptance – Letting Go of Should  is the first of 12 articles on the power of acceptance in daily life, published in Sibyl Magazine.   Accepting what is, reality, can open a world of possibilities, possibilities we can’t see while we remain stuck in what “should” be.  Letting go of our “should” about ourselves, others and life in general  can bring freedom of choice and the power to co-create our own lives.

I Can’t: 4 Key Signs of Victim Thinking

In my previous post, we looked at the language people use when they see themselves as powerless: phrases like “It’s not fair”, “She should…”,  “He won’t let me…”    This is the language of a psychological victim, someone who sees themselves, not as an actor in life, but a passive recipient of what life throws at them.  But few of us can live in complete powerlessness for long.  We are driven to snatch back some shred of power for ourselves and we do it in ways we might not recognize as power plays.  Below are some of the signs of victim thinking: Read more

What The Words We Use Reveal About Us.

I’ve been thinking lately about the idea that we, at the least, co-create the life we live.  So if the life I have is not the life I want, who is responsible.  Me?  But how?  I try everything I’m supposed to do to create the life I desire but it’s not working.  Why?  The answers can be complicated but as a writer, I’m fascinated by one small aspect of it:  the words we use and the not quite hidden things those words reveal about us. Read more

How You Stand Can Change Your Life: Posture, Movement and Mood Part 3 of 3

When I ran classes in assertiveness and communication skills I used an exercise in body language.  One person stood before the class and silently repeated a negative statement about herself to herself.  At a point of her own choosing, she switched to a positive statement, again silently.  The group’s task was to point out when the switch occurred.  It rarely took more than a few seconds for the change in self-talk to show up in her stance and for the group to spot the transition.

Now, research shows that the reverse is also true–changing the way you stand can affect, not only your self-talk, but your levels of confidence and of stress.    Read more

Radical Awareness goes to print this week.

I’m very excited that my book which took its own sweet time getting written, finally goes to print this week.  It will be in bookshops in December in time for the Christmas gift market.  You can pre-order at a reduced price HERE.