The Power of Acceptance – The Foundation of Effective Communication, my third of twelve articles on the power of acceptance in Sibyl Magazine’s March edition.
Many of us experience moments of enlightenment—41% of us in fact, or so a 2002 Gallup poll tells us. Enlightenment is that state of radically expanded awareness where the boundaries of our individual self melt into a blissful union with the life force. We are at one with the cosmos and feel a sense connection, love, and peace that’s beyond rational understanding. Some people, the Gallup organization for example, call it a religious experience. Others call it mystical, an awakening, an altered or peak state, or (in the 1960s) a trip. But no matter how wonderful our period of radical awareness is or how long it lasts, it passes. We may be transformed by it in some way, but the life we return to is not. So how do we put radical awareness—enlightenment—into practice in our daily lives? Read more at Llewellyn Worldwide.
Think about what happens when a young child doesn’t get what he wants. Tantrum. No holds barred anger. That’s our untamed, natural and healthy response to powerlessness. Our caregiver’s job is to teach us how to regulate and manage that well of anger in appropriate and effective ways. But if life teaches us to be victims, that anger can go underground. One of the way’s to begin the journey back to empowered personal effectiveness is to make friends with our hidden anger. Read more
The Power of Acceptance – Letting Go of Should is the first of 12 articles on the power of acceptance in daily life, published in Sibyl Magazine. Accepting what is, reality, can open a world of possibilities, possibilities we can’t see while we remain stuck in what “should” be. Letting go of our “should” about ourselves, others and life in general can bring freedom of choice and the power to co-create our own lives.
In my previous post, we looked at the language people use when they see themselves as powerless: phrases like “It’s not fair”, “She should…”, “He won’t let me…” This is the language of a psychological victim, someone who sees themselves, not as an actor in life, but a passive recipient of what life throws at them. But few of us can live in complete powerlessness for long. We are driven to snatch back some shred of power for ourselves and we do it in ways we might not recognize as power plays. Below are some of the signs of victim thinking: Read more
I’ve been thinking lately about the idea that we, at the least, co-create the life we live. So if the life I have is not the life I want, who is responsible. Me? But how? I try everything I’m supposed to do to create the life I desire but it’s not working. Why? The answers can be complicated but as a writer, I’m fascinated by one small aspect of it: the words we use and the not quite hidden things those words reveal about us. Read more
When I ran classes in assertiveness and communication skills I used an exercise in body language. One person stood before the class and silently repeated a negative statement about herself to herself. At a point of her own choosing, she switched to a positive statement, again silently. The group’s task was to point out when the switch occurred. It rarely took more than a few seconds for the change in self-talk to show up in her stance and for the group to spot the transition.
Now, research shows that the reverse is also true–changing the way you stand can affect, not only your self-talk, but your levels of confidence and of stress. Read more
Throughout her school years, Catherine, an avid reader, wrote many books –all of them in her imagination. Read More.
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- The Power of Awareness: Witnessing Without Judging March 24, 2016